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In Memory of Robin Williams

Robin_WilliamsOn Monday, August 11, 2014 the world lost a brilliant talented genius …Robin Williams.

A representative for Williams told Entertainment Weekly, “Robin Williams passed away this morning. He has been battling severe depression of late. This is a tragic and sudden loss. The family respectfully asks for their privacy as they grieve during this very difficult time.”

Shame on the Marin County Sherriff and Coroner’s office for talking about how Williams died and how he was found.

It is less important how Robin Williams died, and more important as to why he died.

Beloved actress Lauren Bacall passed away yesterday and it was not sensationalized how she died.

I love and respect the media and am friends with them, but the media and others have gone way too far on reporting the methods in how that people take their lives.

And we must not forget the children who suffer from depression, whether the cause is a result of bullying or a combination of depression by bullying and mental illness. Every time we lose a child to depression it is also reported how the child succumbed.

The reporting of how a celebrity, a person not in the spotlight or a child succumbs to depression and takes their life is not relevant. It hurts the families even more and gives ideas to others – especially children.

It is far more important to recognize why and to understand their illness.

Robin Williams was fighting severe depression. He is gone and the world is saddened and devastated by his loss.

No one – not even celebrities are immune from this silent illness and its effects.

Major depression is an illness and is one of the most common mental disorders in the United States, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. In 2012, an estimated 16 million U.S. adults had at least one major depressive episode, or bout of depressive symptoms, in the past year.

Despite how common the illness is, many people do not understand exactly what it means to have depression and no one talks about it.

We must talk about it. There is no shame in being depressed. The more we talk about it, the more we can help others.

Signs and symptoms of depression include:

  • Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness
  • Loss of interest in daily activities.
  • Appetite or weight changes
  • Sleep changes
  • Anger or irritability
  • Loss of energy
  • Self-loathing
  • Reckless behavior

Some facts about depression:

  • Although major depression can strike people of any age, the median age at onset is 32.5, according to Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis.
  • Depression is more common in women than in men, according to Washington University.
  • Men with depression are more likely than depressed women to abuse alcohol and other substances, according to Jill Goldstein, director of research at the Connors Center for Women’s Health and Gender Biology at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston.
  • Men’s symptoms of depression may be harder for other people to recognize, and the illness is missed more frequently in men.
  • Men with depression are more likely than women with the condition to commit suicide.
  • Men with depression may go longer without being diagnosed or treated, and so men may develop a more devastating mental health problem.
  • Symptoms of depression extend far beyond feeling sad, and may include: loss of interest and pleasure in normal activities, irritability, agitation or restlessness, lower sex drive, decreased concentration, insomnia or excessive sleeping and chronic fatigue and lethargy, according to Mayo Clinic.

MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES

APA Practice Organization Psychologist Locator http://locator.apa.org/

The National Association of Free Clinics http://www.freeclinics.us/

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (202) 966-7300 www.aacap.org

National Institute of Mental Health 1-888-ANXIETY http://store.samhsa.gov/mhlocator

Mental Health America http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/farcry/go/searchMHA

American Association of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry http://myaccount.aacap.org/iweb/BuyersGuide/ProfessionalSearch.aspx

Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychiatrists http://www.aglp.org/images/Directories/AGLPReferralDirectory2010.pdf

Anxiety Disorders Association of America http://www.adaa.org/finding-help/getting-support

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) http://www.nami.org/ The nation’s largest grassroots organization for people with mental illness and their families. (866) 615-6464

When in crisis the number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-TALK (8255), call 911 or go to your nearest hospital emergency room.

Robin Williams was not only a talented, brilliant comedian and actor, he was one of the most caring people. His love for helping children is known to all. He was a true humanitarian.

Robin was a friend to Love Our Children USA and STOMP Out Bullying. We will always remember his generosity, commitment, genius and magic! The world stands together to say farewell to this talented and caring man who died from emotional pain. Our hearts and prayers go out to his family and friends. RIP Robin Williams.

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Trust: Bad things can happen to good children (online safety)

“A MUST SEE movie for every parent whose kids are on the Internet” – Ross Ellis, Founder and Chief Executive Officer, STOMP Out Bullying™ and Love Our Children USA™

By Guest  Blogger Christopher Burgess

In David Schwimmer’s TRUST, bad things happen to Annie, a good child. She is by all appearances a typical teenager – totally wired, online and available, 24/7/365.  As the typical teen, the online interaction includes those with whom she has a personal relationship with a physical quotient: her best friends, family members, and school acquaintances. She also has availed to her an increased circle of acquaintances about whom her knowledge is limited to their projected online personas.

In the physical world, parents see with whom their child interacts. As the parents witness this interaction they are able to help guide and influence their child’s choices. Overtime, the maturation of the child’s decision-making skills demonstrates absorption of the lessons, principles and ethics of the parent. The child displays good decision-making skills and the level of trust bestowed upon the child and their range of movement may be increased.

Within the online world, it isn’t that different. The parents continue to have the responsibility to see with whom their child interacts both within their own community and beyond. Though alien for so many parents of today’s teens and tweens, the totally wired child is interacting at a pace which far outstrips the physical world interaction, while not being as easily observable by the parent.

Parents must assist their child online as they do offline. Parents must be able to note whom their child is engaging and perform the necessary due diligence on the individual. The parent must also be able to note the frequency and modes of this communication with the “online friends.” The most important rule to follow when navigating between the online and physical world is when the online friend suggests moving the relationship from virtual to physical. The number one rule for every family: “The child must not engage in any personal meetings with an individual whom they have only met online without explicit parental permission.”

So many attribute their lack of desire to look into what their child is doing online to their desire to trust their child. One should trust their child, but that level of trust shouldn’t extend to an individual about who so little is known – the online acquaintance and their online persona. Parents can and should do their own due diligence on those at the other end of the online connection. Parents can observe and monitor frequency and modes of contact. In addition to the “no meeting” rule, the next most important rule is all online interaction will occur from a centralized (observable) locale (the laptop in the bedroom should never occur).

The parent can also advantage themselves to any of the numerous software offerings which will provide the internet protocol (IP) addresses with who their devices are engaged. In this manner, the parent can note all interactions and highlight those worthy of further investigation. If your child’s interlocutor is coming into contact with your child from a variety of geographically diverse locales, that should be considered anomalous and worthy of deeper inspection. If the child has their own device (laptop or desktop), then you may desire to put a time limit on when the device is allowed to access the internet (in the physical world, when the child leaves the home the parent knows where they are going, who they will be with and when they are expected to return) via regulating the router access.

Mobile telephony is often overlooked. This is a means by which a child may circumvent the safety net provided by their parents within their home. Text (SMS) messages, video messages, photos, emails, and chat are all a part of the normal offering from today’s smart phones and warrant the same level of observation provided to the devices within the home. With respect to mobile devices one can review the device itself and also review the billing and call records in the same manner one would for the IP addresses. Again, there is available a plethora of applications designed to lock-down and regulate the areas of the accessible internet writ-large for mobile devices.

The protection of your children is important. You can honor their privacy and enhance their protection by guiding your child in the online world just as you would in the physical world. In doing so, you will greatly reduce the opportunity for a malevolent person from making the adage “bad things to happen to good children” a reality.

Trust_ opens at theaters in the United States on 1 April.

Safe and sound in their suburban home, Will and Lynn Cameron used to sleep well at night, trusting their children were protected. Will, in particular, was comforted by the fact that he and Lynn raised three bright children, and that once the doors were locked and the alarm was set, nothing — absolutely nothing — was going to harm his family.

When his fourteen-year-old daughter, Annie, made a new friend online — a sixteen-year-old boy named Charlie that she met in a volleyball chat room — Will and Lynn didn’t think much of it. They discussed his friendship with her, assuming that this is normal with teenagers who connect through the internet.

After weeks of communicating online, Annie becomes enraptured by Charlie and finds herself drawn to him more and more. Slowly she learns he is not who he claims to be, yet Annie remains intrigued by Charlie even as the truth about him is uncovered. The devastating revelation reverberates through her entire family, setting in motion a chain of events that forever change their lives in ways that no one could have ever predicted.

Genre(s): Drama
Runtime: 104 min.
MPAA Rating: R (for disturbing material involving the rape of a teen, language, sexual content and some violence.)
Theatrical Release Date: 04/01/2011
DVD Release Date:  07/26/2011
Status:  Coming Soon
Distributor(s): Millennium Entertainment
Director(s):  David Schwimmer
Starring: Clive Owen, Catherine Keener, Viola Davis, Liana Liberato
Country of Origin: USA – Limited (04-01-2011)
Language: English

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Why BLUE SHIRT Day matters!

A special message from Cati, your Teen Ambassador:

Wow- I can’t believe the new school year is upon us. It seems like yesterday was the last day and now I get to see all my friends again on the first day. I am so excited for all of the new opportunities and challenges this year will bring. Especially organizing BLUE SHIRT DAY at my school again, it was a blast! Last year was the first time I approached my principal about organizing a BLUE SHIRT DAY at my high school in San Diego. Everyone at my school was happy to participate! This year, I’m thinking BIG, that is why I am asking you to take a stand against bullying and organize your own BLUE SHIRT DAY at your school.  If you have ever been bullied, witnessed someone being bullied, or have even heard about bullying, I encourage you to help stop this vicious trend and take a colorful stand on Oct 4, 2010 by simply wearing a BLUE SHIRT. It really is that simple!  You have the power to take a stand, be your own hero, and help defend others who may not be able to defend themselves. I want to unite under BLUE and STOMP Out Bullying everywhere across America – around the world.  So can I count on you to wear BLUE and make October 4th the day that bullying prevention is heard around the world?

Visit www.stompoutbullying.org  for details.

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